And frankly so was the rest of us. Our STRESS-CATION, aka trip to Wisconsin was just that, stress full. For those of you who know us we are pretty laid back, we like to enjoy life and our kids. they are funny. But going to Wisconsin has finally taken a toll on all of us, EVEN Payton. Who came home saying, "do we have to go back, why can't we just go on cruises, they are more fun and not so cold". I asked her which does she prefer, she gave me the "duh stare" and said "CRUISES MOM". As you can tell by the look on Phoenix's face she was over it too.
And I can't say I don't blame her. We live a pretty quite existence and WI is the complete opposite of that. We are are laid back, do things when we feel like it kind of people and we like to keep our vacation that way. Let's just say things were being planned for us before we even got there. It drove Michael and I nuts. I made a small wager that he would be ready to go before I would be, (because I am use to the craziness). Well I was wrong, by day 2 I was over it. It was cold, raining, snowy and down right depressing. We were stuck at the airport for four hours and did not get into Brew town until 1 am our time. You would think consideration would be shown for people with young kids, it was not. For some reason that turn into a party. I am still trying to figure it out. Oh well, I had to finally concede defeat and say Michael was right, it is not worth the time, energy, or money for us to make such a trek. I agree vacationing someplace like the Caribbean or the Bahamas is a much better idea. I am thinking about setting something up for the summer and not waiting for Marquis' graduation present. Hey that 10 year anny is coming up, where can we go minus the kids?
Anyway it was great to see people I had not seen in a awhile. We had a funeral to attend while we were there. This might sound morbid but that was the highlight of my trip. It was really funny during the funeral when music was being played, (I think someone was singing). Phoenix was jamming like she was on Soul Train. It was so funny and a little embarrassing or so I thought. Afterwards, several of my COUSIN'S said it was refreshing to look over and she her getting down, oblivious to what was going on around her. It really lighten the mood. Payton was really surprised to find out she had so many biracial COUSINS, (she has a lot). She had a great time doing gymnastics with her COUSIN Raven. Which, I now truly believe the flexibility comes from my side. Anyway, Monday could not come fast enough, especially by the third day I got a fever that turned into bronchitis. We brought this home and all of the girls got it. We are still not better. Thanks to my husband, the doctor, he took really good care of us. He is such a big stud. I think I will keep him.
Speaking of big studs, one thing I also notice is that the kids, the younger two anyway, are very attached to their dad. I thought about this and realized that they really don't get to see him that much especially Phoenix. She is usually asleep when dad leaves and asleep when he gets home. I now know we need VACATIONS were we can just be us!
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She looks 'over it' that's for sure. I promise I won't plan anything for you to do over Memorial weekend, except maybe a game night with the old gang. :) Sound all right too you? Can't wait to see you and yours! I'm sorry that you got sick - that's yucky.
How dare you torture my poor baby like that, she a Forida girl. Remember! She does not do well in the cold. My poor Phe.
Deidre was trying to get something together awhile ago. It has even been a bit since we had one here even. But it sounds great. I am not sure if we are coming up Friday or Saturday I will let you know. I CAN"T WAIT TO SEE YOU EITHER!
sers
I am sorry to here that your trip to WI was very stressful and chaotic and you had such a horrible time, especially since everyone here was so excited to see you, Mike and the kids. So excited in fact, we opened our home to all FIVE of you. Yes this made our week very stressful and chaotic also, but you know what… it was worth it to see family. I am sorry you don’t feel that same way.
I am also sorry that you think your trip was planned out for you. We thought we were doing you all a favor by making ONE large family gathering so that way you wouldn’t have to make separate trips to see everyone. I am sorry my dad planned a night out with guys also; I think he thought it was just a nice, fun thing to do.
I am also sorry some people waited up for you to arrive, and others woke up to greet you I guess we were all just so happy to see you guys.
I agree that a cruise would have been much more relaxing, but who comes to Wisconsin to visit 3 sides of family and expects to relax? Well if you did, I guess that would explain why a funeral was the highlight of your trip.
I understand that you ‘can’t control other’s feelings,’ but I thought you should know that this blog hurt a lot of people, because we spent a lot of our time to make your trip enjoyable. We tried our best to make you feel comfortable and right at home.
I guess we failed.
Okay you were right Puddin and I was semi wrong. Next time you guys better take us up on our offer to stay with us. We promise NEVER to throw it back at you. Besides it is closer to the action. Not sure when we will be down but I will let you know if plans change. I love you and Mike very much. Kiss the kids for me.
TW
Sorry it is taking me awhile to respond I have not been on my computer in awhile.
I never said I did not enjoy seeing people, in fact I said the opposite. I clearly stated the weather was miserable, cold, raining and snowy to be exact. (The Bahamas for us is only about $49 roundtrip per person during slow season and is a 40 minute flight, versus $250 person to go to WI and a three hour flight, trust me I made sure I applied for passports for the girls the second I got back). Thus explaining less travel time and expenses.
Please understand we had been traveling for 10 hours with three kids. Not to mention I am pregnant. We sat in an airport for 4 hours, 4 of those hours with someone’s two year old who screamed most of the time only to find out that same kid was on our 3 hour flight. Yes, he screamed most of the way to Milwaukee as well. So needless to say we were BEYOND tired. I understand the greeting, thank you. I did not understand the partying that took place under me and my 2 kids at 2 in the morning. I was annoyed the first time it woke Phoenix up, the second time it was down right rude. Had I not been completely exhausted I would have gone done and bonked my husband over the head. Because I did not get up I can't tell you who all was in the basement having what sounded like a party but I can tell you I found it rude.
As for your funeral comment, I will explain what it meant since you were not there to experience it. There was a song being played that Grandma Bea played all the time when we were kids. The lyrics to the song caused just about everyone in the room to burst into tears. I looked over at Phe who was on the floor dancing and laughing. I picked her up in hopes to distract her; it did not work so she continued to dance. We were sitting on the first row, which meant everyone saw her dancing and laughing. Michael and I were both very embarrassed. Only to have several people come up to us later and state how watching the baby dance took things full circle. You have one person at the end of her life moving on, and a baby, just beginning her life, laughing almost at the rest of us like we did not understand it was not a time for sorrow but CELEBRATION. That is what made it a HIGHLIGHT.
I may be wrong but unless you were privy to the phone calls I received from your mom, in an attempt to organized, playmates, dinners and other events for us in a short amount of time complicated things. Yes trying to visit several families, in six days is tight but not impossible, especially since we had a funeral to attend this time. But we really should be deciding what we do not others. It places us in the position to say no to people and then we are back at square one with hurt feelings. We even stated we did not want to attend a meeting for a party we were not going to be available for. We stated if you want to get together for a few hours that is fine, but devoting a whole entire day may be out of the question.
As far as giving up your home to us, we have been gone for almost ten years, and for the first 5 or 6 times we can home we did not stay with any Harts, we always stayed with Taronn or other friends, that way it was always sure we would get to see them and my side of the family without question. Then once again we heard about hurt feelings and people not being able to spend enough time with us. It was only after Michael asked me to stay with your mom (after she had asked him, repeatedly) that we even started staying on Michael’s side; we never once asked for any accommodations, I think now it is just assume. So I am sorry for the inconvenience we caused you can guarantee in the future it will not be a problem.
In all was it great to see people yes, I never stated differently. Could the weather have been better? Yes! Hope this clears things up for you.
Later,
P
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